Who’s Driving the Bus – Parent Quiz

Take our quiz to find out if your child’s issues are steering you in the wrong direction!

 

  1. Your child was planning on going to one of his favorite places, but plans have changed and you aren’t able to go. You…
    A. Have your spouse tell him while you run and hide. Your child does not handle change at all and this is not going to be good! (3) B. Get ammunitions ready to bribe him and hope for the best. (2) C. No worries – plans change and we’ll just find something else to do. (1)
  2. You’ve been invited to attend an event and would really like to attend.  You…
    A. Make plans for a babysitter and get ready for a relaxing and fun evening out. (1) B. Call your sister to watch the kids, but worry all night long about what you’ll find when you get home. (2) C. Decline the invitation. You can’t possibly go because no one will agree to spend a few hours with your child, and even if they did you would be too anxious to actually go. (3)
  3. Mealtimes at your house are…
    A. Hectic. No one wants to eat the same things, the kids won’t stay at the table, and it’s best to just hurry through and be done with it. (2) B. Enjoyable. Meals are times to connect with each other while eating. We aren’t usually rushed and everyone is able to sit together without much drama. (1) C. Mealtimes? What mealtimes? I’m like a short-order cook all day long because no one will eat the same things at the same times. Even if we wanted to have a meal together we’d have to spend a week searching for the dining room table and strap the kids in their seats to keep them there! (3)
  4. Thinking about my child’s future…
    A. Overwhelms me.  I feel anxious and guilty that maybe we aren’t doing the right things or enough for her now. (2) B. Puts me in denial mode.  I don’t think about my child’s future because it’s too scary to even go there. (3) C. Motivates me.  I know I am doing things that will help my child reach her fullest potential. (1)
  5. When I think about my child’s school situation I…
    A. Want to throw up it’s so stressful and frustrating.  I’ve given up trying to deal with it. (3) B. Am at peace knowing that my child’s educational program is supportive and appropriate to meet his needs. (1) C. Feel my jaw clench and the hair stand up on the back of my neck.  It’s a never-ending battle making sure my child gets what he needs, and I always have to be on guard. (2)
  6. The best way to describe bedtime at your house is…
    A. Chaotic! We don’t have a good routine and I end up chasing my child around to get him ready and into bed. (2) B. A Nightmare!  It doesn’t matter how early or late I start trying to put him to bed, he is up for hours.  I usually end up letting him sleep with me so I can get some rest.  This has been going on for years and I’m exhausted by it. (3) C. Great! My son knows the routine for bedtime and it isn’t usually a problem to have him in bed and asleep on time.  I look forward to having some time in the evenings to myself. (1)
  7. Thinking about playing with my child…
    A. Feels like another chore.  She is so controlling that I’m constantly walking on eggshells trying not to do anything that will upset her. (2) B. Brings a smile to my face.  It hasn’t always been easy, but now we’re at a point where we genuinely enjoy playing together.  It’s not stressful for either of us and we can have fun doing lots of different things together. (1) C. Makes me feel rejected and incompetent.  She doesn’t seem to want to play with me and nothing I do seems to work. I don’t even try much anymore. (3)
  8. When I ask my child to help with something around the house…
    A. He may not want to do it, but he knows that it is an expectation as a family member.  Even though he may not be able to do some of the chores on his own, he will work together with me to get them done. (1) B. Do other people’s kids actually help around the house?!  It doesn’t usually even occur to me to ask him, and even if I did he wouldn’t help anyway. (3) C. It’s a lot of work!  Most of the time it’s such a chore for me to get him to help out that it’s just easier for me to do it myself. (2)
  9. I would describe the impact of my child’s disability on my relationship with my spouse/significant other as…
    A. Forget about being on the same page, we’re not even in the same book! We have completely different ideas about how to handle/help our child, and argue about it often.  There is so little time for us to connect that we’re like two ships passing in the night. (3) B. Just like any couple, we’ve been through some tough spots. Overall, though, we haven’t allowed our child’s disability to come between us.  We try to make time to spend with each other and work together to make sure our child’s needs are being met. (1) C. I hear about the divorce statistics in families of children with disabilities, and I worry that might become us.  We try the best we can to make it through each day, but I do the majority of the work with our child and feel like my spouse isn’t very supportive.  There is a lot of frustration and negative emotion hiding under the surface of everything we do together. (2)
  10. The quality of my self-care can be described as…
    A. Nonexistent – I’m too busy taking care of everyone else to even think about my own needs.  I’ve needed a haircut for months, don’t remember the last time I went somewhere enjoyable by myself, and have been known to sport my pajama pants around town because it’s easier than trying to get myself dressed in the morning. (3) B. Rare – I often think about taking time for myself, but rarely do it. I’d like to spend more time doing some things I enjoy, but I’m not sure if that will ever be a reality. (2) C. I make an effort – While there’s always room for improvement, I take time for myself regularly and stay in touch with the things I value and enjoy.  (1)